Parenthood is the hardest job you will ever do, nevertheless, the job that you’ll love the most.

It is surely filled with all the cuteness you can possibly imagine; tiny feet and small fists, funny questions, that irresistible laughter, that innocence of a sleeping toddler and all the hugs and kisses. But is also 20 minutes of screaming when you tell them in a super market they can’t have an ice-cream, its lots of sleepless nights and back aches. It’s also working your head of, and watching everything ruined the next minute, and it’s also temper tantrums that you have no idea where they are coming from.

Life is hard as a parent, not unpleasant, but just hard. Let alone going through it alone.

Life as a single parent can be double the amount of hard work and might as well be double the amount of joy. But is surely means having to take decisions alone, no one to take an opinion from, weather you child is warm enough or not in the middle of the night to be rushed to a hospital. It also means being a lot more responsible.

But there are a few things you should know if you are doing it alone.

1. Give yourself a break.

While raising a child, everyone is said to be stuck in a vicious triangle.

Happy kids

                                                                                   Your sanity            Clean house

Give yourself the allowance that you can’t do it all! No one can do it all. You need to let somethings go. Having a happy kid is more important than a clean house. And having your own sanity intact is definitely more important weather or not your kitchen cabinet is arranged according to the size of the jars.

When you can accept the imperfections of the job, trust me, you ll be a lot more happy.

2. Your child is still a child.

Do not repeat the mistake that most single parents do. Depending too much on their child emotionally. It puts burden on the child he is not even capable of handling. He still is a child at the end of the day, not a replacement for your emotional stability. As they are not capable of responding or tackling it the way you might need it. Be there for them, but do not expect the same amount of maturity from them.

3. Not being tough is completely alright.

Yes you are a single parent. But NO you do not need to be strong all the time. If you think you can, you are probably stressing down yourself. You are a human, and every human is weak at some point. Make sure you talk to someone about yourself, let it be family or friends. Let your kid be watched by someone once in a while to take out time for yourself. For allowing yourself to breathe and restore your own sanity.

Please remember, you can raise a child well, only when your own mental and physical health is intact. Look after yourself. Because, YOU MATTER!